Hello all, welcome back to my blog!
To begin this post, I must warn you that I am writing as an advocate for love who has been through the freshman year of college transition with my high school sweetheart in tow. I learned a lot from my experience that I would like to pass on. Hopefully it will help you out with a decision or two that you might be making here in the near(ish) future.
First things first: This is not a decision that I can make for you at the end of this article. Every situation is a little different, and you'll have to exercise some independent thought to make the choice that is best for you.
You know that comfort zone that you have achieved with your sweetheart in just about any situation high school could offer? Prepare for all of that to change when you go to college. You will both enter situations that are foreign to you with new people, new rooms, perhaps an unknown roomie, new schedules, and new lives. This will eventually change you. You may not notice it, but the person you are dating most certainly will notice the shift in your personality. You will both grow at different rates and adapt to the culture that is surrounding you. Be prepared.
I have always heard that distance (or absence) makes the heart grow fonder. In some cases this may be true. I have seen it go both ways. One week you'll be Facetiming daily, feeling a close bond, then the next week homework sets in and neither of you really have the time or energy to sit down and dedicate a few minutes to one another. It's sad but true. It may come to a point where going out with your new friends on the weekends will overcome that urge you once had to drive a couple hours to spend an evening with your loved one.
I hate to say this because it's quite a terrible creature, but there is going to be some temptation. This temptation may come in the form of the opposite or same sex, it may come from the dining hall, it may come from the activities you choose to indulge in. Whatever the situation may be, you will be tempted to steer your life in one or two different directions in some areas of your life.
College has a strange way of rearranging your priorities. If you really want to know, people sort of come and go. Life has a way of bringing people in to travel the path of life with you, but your never know how long they'll walk along side of you. One minute you might know they are the one for you, then the next you're not so sure. There are some paths that may be better traveled in singularity. Often I've seen the high school sweetheart as more of a safety blanket for the incoming college student. Having confidence and being comfortable must come from within yourself.
Love, peace, and chicken grease.
If you're like me, your room is a place of peace and sanctity. It's the place in which you can retreat and relax. Rejuvenate and create the space that really represents who you are. You've probably spent the last 17 to 20 years of your life creating a space in your home that is an extension of who you are--a pure representation of your personality. Odds are, there are still some childhood effects in existence that some may find embarrassing to take to school with them. Moving to college is your chance to create a new space (along with your roommate) that is authentically who you are right now! Here are some tips to making the best of your new pad!
Lighting: The lights in residence hall rooms can be industrial.
- Bring your own lamp - having a lamp can create a warm, homey feel within your room. Having a little lower key light will allow you to relax and keep the stress level low in your new room.
- Hang Christmas lights (LED only) - You can choose from an wide variety of colors and styles. These colors will cast a certain feel over the room. Find the color you love and give it a try!
- Allow sunlight to flood in during the day - having thick curtains will allow you to sleep in on those weekend mornings. However, waking up in the morning and keeping your energy up throughout the day is much easier when you let the natural energy of the sun flow into your space!
- Posters - I would suggest getting a couple new posters of things/people/places that you love. There are many online resources to get new posters and local stores will carry them for a low price. Hang your posters with sticky tack, NOT push pins or tape (those things will damage the wall and lead to a fine).
- Hang a sheet - hanging a colored sheet on the wall is the college equivalent to a paint job. Like your lighting decision, the color of the walls will represent the feel you want to give the room.
- Use your own art - perhaps you have an art class your freshman year, hang the projects from classes on your walls. It will encourage you to create art that you are proud of.
Entertainment: How do you prefer to entertain - Movies? Music? Games?
- Television - coordinate with your future roomie (your Residential Life office should let your know). Who will bring the television? Will you need a DVD or Blu Ray player? Surround sound? All things to think about.
- Speakers - this one is near and dear to my heart. I love music. Having good sound quality is key to entertaining. People love to listen to music when they hang out. Be careful with the power of the bass and volume though, you don't want you neighbors to get upset when you are pounding their wall with your subwoofers.
- A place to sit - having plenty of comfortable places to sit is crucial to finding comfort in your room. A futon or moon chair is very modern and provides a comfortable place for you and your guests to sit down and relax.
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Love, peace, and chicken grease,
If college students were honest, I think they would all admit that when you live on a college campus, you are in a bubble. Students must be conscious about staying up-to-date with the world around them because a lot happens off the William Woods University campus. If you’re like me, once you get to college, you will no longer have the AM and PM newscasts automatically playing on TV (because there are no parents). So, you have to seek out your own news. Here are they ways that I (try) to stay informed about the world around me.
1. Apps, Apps, and more Apps
I am addicted to online news apps. On my phone, I have Flipboard, the NPR app, KTAR news, Reason, and Twitter (which is basically all news for me). That might be a bit excessive, but I really like having a lot of news sources where I can receive a lot of different opinions and updates. Plus, they all have push notifications, so I can stay on top of breaking news even when I am not actively seeking it out.
I don’t follow a lot of news sources on Facebook, but I think we have all experienced the following phenomenon: All of the sudden, every single status is the same. I remember this very distinctly when Paul Walker passed away. I had not read any news about his death, but my news feed flooded with updates. While this is not always the most consistent way to get news, it can be helpful and most of the time accurate (but it’s always good to fact check your friends).
3. USA Today Newspapers
This might seem outdated. Not too many college students pick up the paper. But, at William Woods, we get free copies of USA Today! I really enjoy picking them up as I walk to class as they make good passing-period reading material. Recently, I picked up an issue to read their debate coverage. Plus, USA Today has other sections I don’t normally read, like business, so it keeps me up to date on a lot of different subjects.
In my circle of friends, I do a lot of news reading and so I share a lot of news. But, every day when we eat lunch and dinner, news usually circulates around the table. Whether it’s breaking news or the fun fact that a mammoth was found in Michigan, news usually comes up at some point. Friends can be a great, and entertaining, source of news.
5. Funny News Shows
Personally, I don’t really watch a lot of TV, and I especially don’t watch a lot of local news or newscasts. But, I do really enjoy shows like Last Week Tonight with John Oliver or the monologues on The Tonight Show. While these shows are not the best places to solely receive news, they are hilarious and mostly accurate. And, they often comment on funny or unique topics, which I really like.
And finally, my nerdy moment—I really love watching CSPAN. I think it drives everyone in my dorm room crazy, but I can watch judiciary meetings all day long. This is hardly the most interesting way to receive news, but I do find it interesting. This doesn't get its own point because I might be the only person that does this, but it would be dishonest to leave it out.
It's fun and exciting to stay up on the news, whether it's politics, business, or sports. How do you enjoy getting your news?