Student Blog The blog of William Woods University Undergraduate Students

12Nov/150

“Should I dump my High School Sweetheart before college?”

Hello all, welcome back to my blog!

To begin this post, I must warn you that I am writing as an advocate for love who has been through the freshman year of college transition with my high school sweetheart in tow. I learned a lot from my experience that I would like to pass on. Hopefully it will help you out with a decision or two that you might be making here in the near(ish) future.

First things first: This is not a decision that I can make for you at the end of this article. Every situation is a little different, and you'll have to exercise some independent thought to make the choice that is best for you.

road sign reading "change is just ahead"

Change is Just Ahead

Change

You know that comfort zone that you have achieved with your sweetheart in just about any situation high school could offer? Prepare for all of that to change when you go to college. You will both enter situations that are foreign to you with new people, new rooms, perhaps an unknown roomie, new schedules, and new lives. This will eventually change you. You may not notice it, but the person you are dating most certainly will notice the shift in your personality. You will both grow at different rates and adapt to the culture that is surrounding you. Be prepared.

"I'm jealous of people who get to see you every day."

The truth about long distance relationships.

Distance

I have always heard that distance (or absence) makes the heart grow fonder. In some cases this may be true. I have seen it go both ways. One week you'll be Facetiming daily, feeling a close bond, then the next week homework sets in and neither of you really have the time or energy to sit down and dedicate a few minutes to one another. It's sad but true. It may come to a point where going out with your new friends on the weekends will overcome that urge you once had to drive a couple hours to spend an evening with your loved one.

Family Guy character Peter Griffin about to push a button labeled "Do not push button" because he is tempted to do so.

Peter Griffin is tempted too.

Temptation

I hate to say this because it's quite a terrible creature, but there is going to be some temptation. This temptation may come in the form of the opposite or same sex, it may come from the dining hall, it may come from the activities you choose to indulge in. Whatever the situation may be, you will be tempted to steer your life in one or two different directions in some areas of your life.

Final thoughts...

College has a strange way of rearranging your priorities. If you really want to know, people sort of come and go. Life has a way of bringing people in to travel the path of life with you, but your never know how long they'll walk along side of you. One minute you might know they are the one for you, then the next you're not so sure. There are some paths that may be better traveled in singularity. Often I've seen the high school sweetheart as more of a safety blanket for the incoming college student. Having confidence and being comfortable must come from within yourself.

Love, peace, and chicken grease.

-Dakota